The other day I was thinking in the car, which is a way of saying I was over-analyzing something simple and turning it into something difficult. The thoughts this time centered around forgiveness, specifically what it takes to forgive someone. So let’s start by having our friends at Webster define Forgiveness:
the act of forgiving
Well, that was pretty useless. Let’s try Forgiving:
willing or able to forgive
That’s not really useful either. I’m starting to use faith in my friends at Webster. How about Forgive:
to give up resentment of or claim to requital for (forgive an insult) or to grant relief from payment of (forgive a debt) or to cease to feel resentment against an offender or pardon (forgive one’s enemies)
Now we’re getting someplace. So let’s say Jack does something evil to his long term girlfriend Jill, which ends their relationship and friendship. I’m not sure what, but it was something that was intentional and something that any rational person would say was mean. What would it take for Jill to Forgive Jack. Is it just a matter of getting over that event, getting over that event and being friends again, or returning the relationship to where it was before the event took place?